Why is it so hard to go back to your own home country ?

I am presently in the state of mind where I have decided to go back to my home country i.e. India. But still there are few things which confuse me sometimes, and I am trying to list down all the points why it becomes so hard to go back to India, when you are currently holding a good job in United States.

1. Its something very unusual : Most of us live our life by example's , we make up in our mind image of some person or a general trend and consciously or unconsciously we follow that. But when I try to find an example of a person who has gone back to India when he has all the options of continuing the job in United states ,I don't find even a single.

2. Money : This one goes hand in hand with the first one. The income you earn in United States is much more than what an average software engineer earns in India. That is the reason it takes a lot of courage to even think about this decision.

3. Dude, are you really going back? :  This is the kind of reaction which I get from almost all, when I tell them that I don't plan to be in United States for very long. Nobody will ever advice you to go back. Because going back is not the logical approach to life, and that is the way our brains are trained to think.

4. Work Culture, Life Style, General Administration : These are few things in which USA are really better than India. I have not worked or closely observed work culture in any Indian organization, but there is a general notion that work culture is way better in US compared to India. General Administration that includes excellent roads, perfect traffic rules, great customer support, there are many such things that makes America a great country to settle down.

5. Fear of unknown : There is always a fear of unknown when you are going to do something new. I read somewhere, Life is all about making correct decisions, and these kind of decisions do change life.

6. Luring:  For some obvious reasons its very luring to stay back. I have seen people who always wanted to go back but kept on persuading themselves to stay back.


Now just to get my thoughts organized, I will try to list the reasons of why I want to go back.

1. Never planned to stay here : I landed up in this country as a decision of coming here for Masters and gaining more knowledge after my bachelors degree. I dint really knew what a person earns after completing  the masters or that was the main reason people come to US for. After coming here it came to me as a blow that most people come here to earn big money. My mind was never really able to adapt this thing, and it was always in my mind to go back.

2. Its not how I want my life to be : Its said decision making are easy for people who knows what their values are .Life here is good, but this is not how I see my life to be like, the reason of going back is more of a emotional rather than practical. Personally, I feel there is some positive energy flowing through the body when you are near to your loved ones (family and friends). Although you are not with them, but just a thought of being near gives a sense of calmness to mind.

3. Life Style:  Although I stated earlier that life style is better in United States, but I think that I cannot really enjoy these materialistic things when I am not around the one with whom I really want to share these things. Also there are little life pleasures which I like about India that cannot be found here.

4. Life is short : I believe that life is really short, and I don't want to spend it doing that I don't want to do, I might regret going back, but I really don't want to regret not going back.

5. Make new mistakes : As this is going to be a very unusual thing, it can be new mistake in my life, and that's the only way you really grow in your life. Just doing the same thing as others are doing ,is not much fun :)


This post is a personal thought organizing post , this is not a set of ideas I am trying to impose on others.
There is nothing wrong with staying back in any foreign country as long as you are happy with what you are doing. Also I came across these beautiful lines I did not decided to be an Indian, I was born lucky :D
Now going back to be lucky again.